Two Infuriating Words
Right now, I'm going through a rainy season of work--lots of it, pouring down in sheets, everyone needing my time "right this second." So not a lot of time to blog, and yet I just have to say one thing: I suddenly realized today that I HATE the words "chick flick." I was walking Edward, thinking about this, and I actually started getting angry.
I hope you don't think I'm being an overreactionist. I'll have you know that I happen to be the subdued one in a family of drama queen, king, and princes. I'm a fairly easy-going type, but...chick flicks--aaaaaargh!
What's a chick flick (let's just shorten it to "CF" from now on, since I don't want to be known as someone who expansively strews this word around her blog)? It seems to me that a movie flirts dangerously with being labeled a CF if it contains any of the following:
-conversation (as opposed to dialogue, which doesn't have to include feelings or personal thoughts)
First of all, what is so wrong about any of the above three elements? I ask this because nobody says "CF" in a approving manner. It is almost always used as a cautionary device or as a term of derision and condescension.
Second, since the "chick" in CF immediately absolves men from having any part in this vaguely generalized medium, one has to wonder: why do people who use the words CF feel they have to shame others who might find pleasure in conversation, friendship, and romance?
I think the party that suffers the most here from this labeling is not women but men. This strikes me as rather similar to the case of happy housewives who are made to feel ashamed by successful working women. No one should be pigeonholed. So why shouldn't men be allowed to openly enjoy:
-a good cry;
-the simple pleasure they might derive from the company and conversation of other men (without feeling the need to camouflage the time together with something distracting, like sports or television);
-a feel-good romantic story;
-an exploration of their own, as well as others', feelings?
I don't want to be hypocritical and force everyone to acknowledge that life without the above list would be less full. But if you do enjoy such things, you shouldn't be made to feel silly either.